Yesterday my husband came home from the grocery store and I went into my routine. No not unpacking the groceries and throwing them into the fridge, but my NEW routine. I had him drop the groceries in the garage, I wiped down every item, then wiped down the whole car and everything he could have touched, made him shower, and then scrubbed my own hands down. After, I looked at him and said ” can you believe this is our life right now?!” Maybe you’re a bride and that’s what you’ve been thinking. Is this really happening to my wedding and life right now?
First I want to say that you are completely valid in your feelings. It is Ok to feel really sad and disappointed that this beautiful wedding you have dreamed of and all this hard work is being wrecked by this terrible virus. This doesn’t make you selfish, it makes you human! My heart absolutely broke for my couples who had to postpone and you are allowed to grieve. My heart also breaks for everyone out there, brides included, who have lost their jobs, who have sick family members, and for my fellow wedding vendors who are watching their small businesses barely stay afloat. This is such a hard time and my prayers go out to my brides and my community! So today on the blog I thought I would share some helpful and hopeful tips for planning during this pandemic.
1. Don’t sweat the small stuff, remember what the day is about!
This is actually my mantra for planning in general. Sometimes it is so easy to get caught up in this picture perfect idea in your head that we forget the reason we are celebrating. I think it is more important than ever to remember that at the end of this wedding you will be married to your best friend. Right now things might have to change for your vision. Some decor items may be out of stock, you might have to cut your guest list, or change your flowers but you still get to marry your person. I would suggest writing down the top three things you want at your wedding and focusing on getting those as close to your vision as possible. All the other items can be a fun bonus when they come together!
( Photo by : Blissmore Photography)
2. Take a break and date!
I know this is easier said than done right now considering you can’t go anywhere, but take this time as a couple to have some fun new experiences together. Especially if your wedding got postponed it is most likely all the big planning is done so it is ok to take a breather! Plan a game night, do a home renovation, or learn to cook a new dish together. I always tell my couples it is important to set aside a few days or weeks where there is no wedding talk. It can get overwhelming planning and especially if things have had to change, so take some time off!
3. Do that DYI wedding project!
This is a great time to do any extra wedding projects you had pinned but didn’t have time for. Maybe it’s building a special table for your ceremony or making a cool display for your seating chart. Maybe it is learning calligraphy for your name cards or designing a special slideshow for your rehearsal. The great thing is with all this extra time there is no pressure to rush to get it done. It’s also an extra project so you can just enjoy the process as a couple!
(Photo by : Katie Tiller Photography )
4. Prepare your backup plans!
The terrible thing about planning during this time is the uncertainty. I wish I could tell my clients yes by so and so date you will be just fine, but sadly no one can do that. My best advice now is keep up to date with the news, your state and local mandates, and prepare for different scenarios. Also, keep checking in with your venue and vendors the closer you get to the date. If you have a wedding coming up the next few months and are waiting it out just have a few back up dates in mind as much as that would stink to move everything. If you are prepared and you do have to switch then you can jump on those changes and not lose time. Also, be prepared that we might have to ease into things and that large guests count might not be allowed for awhile. It might help to discuss having a smaller wedding if you still want to move forward with your date.
5. Hire a wedding planner!
I have obviously always believed in hiring a planner, but I really say this to help not as a self promotion. In this time of uncertainty your wedding planner will be there to help guide you, work with your vendors on date changes, and help take some of the burdens and stress off your shoulders. Even if you can’t hire a full planner a month of coordinator would be a HUGE help. When my March clients had to reschedule I was with them the whole process. As soon as they picked a new date I called every single vendor personally and got their available dates. I kept in contact with the venue daily until the change and kept my clients informed. When we did pull the trigger I was able to help my clients reschedule EVERY vendor that very day. Unfortunately, with so many brides having to reschedule to new dates venues and vendors are going to be going fast so if you have a wedding planner who can help you secure new dates for your vendors immediately this will help so much. Not only that, but we as planners just want to be here for our clients. I know I teared up a few times talking to my brides and cried to my husband after because I hated this so much for them . My heart literally hurt for them because we have spent so much time talking about this beautiful day and I love getting to see their days come to life. I value the friendships I build with my brides and am thankful for the amazing clients I have. I promise a good planner wants to advocate for you, but also just be there for you too during this time!I also can’t wait to make the new dates still the best ever for my clients!
( Photo by : Natalie Caho Photography)
I honestly wish I could say something that would make everything better for the brides around the world that are being touched by this. I will say this, us wedding planners are hurting for you and we want you to know you’re not alone! At the end of the day your wedding will still be so special and a day you never forget because you get to marry your best friend!